Tell me, you, the one I love: Where do you pasture your sheep? Where do you let them rest at noon? Why should I be like one who veils herself beside the flocks of your companions? Song of Songs 1:7 HCSB
Dr. Gary Chapman in his book, Five Languages of Love, has identified the five love languages through which people feel loved: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, and Physical Touch. We tend to express love to others in the same way that we feel loved. My dominant love language is Words of Affirmation while my wife’s dominant love language is Acts of Service. I want to hear my wife tell me how wonderful I am and how needed I am while my wife feels most loved when I am running the vacuum cleaner and helping to fix the meals. I can tell my wife how wonderful she is and she would appreciate that, but she will feel most loved when I am willing to help her in some way as an act of service to her. It is good for couples to understand their partner’s love language and be willing to do whatever is needed to let his or her spouse feel loved.
In this passage the female is asking her husband where he pastures his sheep and allows them to rest so she can have some undivided attention from her spouse. She desires to have some quality time with the one she loves. Many woman are “wired” this way and really desire just to spend some quality time with their spouses.
Challenge: It is important for couples to find time to spend together to talk and enjoy one another’s presence. Schedule a regular date night with your spouse. Ask your spouse to spend some quality time with you. If you are not married or dating, pray for couples you know who could benefit from spending more time together. Go to http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/ and take the quiz to discover your love language.